The two most important factors in effective psychotherapy are finding the right person with whom you can connect and knowing that the therapy is geared to your unique needs. My 40 years of counseling have taught me that therapy works when we work together. Therapy is a cooperative effort. I want to help you identify your strengths and apply them to your problems. I believe in going forward to work on goals and only going back to the past if there is a block. I realize that no two people are the same and therefore, tailor my therapy to meet the specific needs of my clients. Whether you are struggling with addictions, trauma anxiety, depression or any other issue, we can find a way to bring healing, control, and peace into your life.
Most couples get into trouble because they are blaming the other person for the difficulties. I believe two major things when working with couples: 1. It is better to focus on responsibility rather than affixing blame and 2. It takes two healthy people to have a healthy relationship, so that each person getting healthy is the means by which the relationship can heal.
A key component of most up-to-date counseling therapies is the concept of mindfulness. The idea is that by being aware (mindful) of the current moment, we can learn to focus only on what is right in front of us, and not get drawn into the traumas of the past nor worry of the future. The techniques I use are guided visualizations, breath work, progressive body relaxation, and anchoring (a way to access positive feelings). This is an area I will help you explore, if you are interested. It, in many ways, can have the most long-term effect.