The two most important factors in effective psychotherapy are finding the right person with whom you can connect and knowing that the therapy is geared to your unique needs. My 40 years of counseling have taught me that therapy works when we work together. Therapy is a cooperative effort. I want to help you identify your strengths and apply them to your problems. I believe in going forward to work on goals and only going back to the past if there is a block. I realize that no two people are the same and therefore, tailor my therapy to meet the specific needs of my clients. Whether you are struggling with addictions, trauma anxiety, depression or any other issue, we can find a way to bring healing, control, and peace into your life.
Most couples get into trouble because they are blaming the other person for the difficulties. I believe two major things when working with couples: 1. It is better to focus on responsibility rather than affixing blame and 2. It takes two healthy people to have a healthy relationship, so that each person getting healthy is the means by which the relationship can heal.
A key component of most up-to-date counseling therapies is the concept of mindfulness. The idea is that by being aware (mindful) of the current moment, we can learn to focus only on what is right in front of us, and not get drawn into the traumas of the past nor worry of the future. The techniques I use are guided visualizations, breath work, progressive body relaxation, and anchoring (a way to access positive feelings). This is an area I will help you explore, if you are interested. It, in many ways, can have the most long-term effect.
Addiction has become an epidemic that is sweeping the nation and tragically destroying many lives. Often help does not seem available, or it seems to be ineffective. While there is no magic treatment, I believe I can help. I like to work with the family to help the addict and to motivate him/her to get treatment. In the early stages of addiction or in early recovery, outpatient counseling is the most effective treatment. There are many forms of addiction: alcohol, drugs, sex, pornography, gambling, and eating. While each have their own pattern, there are many similarities. Each can be quite destructive both to the person and the family. However, in the last 40 years I have successfully treated hundreds of persons with addiction. Unfortunately, recovery is not always a one-time process. Relapse is common and success may require several bouts of treatment, but one should never give up hope.
- a complete assessment including what mental health factors may be involved
- education about the nature of addiction and how to overcome it
- identifying personal strengths and ways to utilize them in recovery
- identifying high-risk situations and how to avoid them
- developing a relapse prevention plan
- linking to outside support systems including self-help groups such as 12 Step groups like AA
- promoting recovery as a meaningful and fulfilling way of life
- work with families to educate and support them in their difficulties
Mental Health Counseling
There is a saying related to overcoming difficult situations: “You alone can do it, but you can’t do it alone.” I think all my clients have thought that at some time they could do it alone, but then realized, they needed help. Reaching for professional help is a wise decision, not a symptom of weakness. Whether it be depression, anxiety, a difficult relationship, recent loss, past or current trauma, parenting difficulties, or adjustment to a new situation, the underlying result is stress. Learning to deal with stress and creating and working a plan to free yourself often takes someone who is non-judgmental, cares unconditionally, and sensitive to your specific needs. My years of experience have prepared me to be such a therapist.
I use several treatment techniques including:
- EMDR Therapy (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing)
- Cognitive-behavioral therapy
- Brief solution-oriented therapy
- Neuro-linguistic therapy (NLP)
- Guided Imagery
- Reintegrative Therapy
While some of these names may be helpful for what you are looking for; others may not know what they are. The point is that my practice is an integration and synthesis of a number of evidence-based therapies in which I have been trained.
Below are some of the problems I work with:
- Anger management
- Attachment Issues
- Domestic Violence
- Family problems
- Grief and loss
- Life Skills
- Marital and premarital counseling
- Mood disorders
- Oppositional defiant
- Separation and divorce
- Stress management
Supervision and Training
Jon has provided clinical supervision for over 40 candidates for Licensed Professional Counselors, Licensed Substance Abuse Treatment Practitioners, and Certified Substance Abuse Counselors. Please contact him if you need supervision.
Jon is also available to do training. Here are the trainings he has done:
- “Recovery Enhancement,” Roads to Recovery, Lynchburg, VA
- “Childhood Trauma and Trauma-Sensitive Schools” North Carolina School Counselors Association, Greensboro, NC
- “What to Do When You Don’t Know What to Do: for Addictions Counselors” North Carolina Association of Alcoholic Residential Facilities (NCAARF)
- “Childhood Trauma and Trauma Sensitive Schools,” Virginia Counselor Association, Williamsburg, VA
- “Recovery Enhancement” North Carolina Foundation for Alcohol and Drug Studies Winter School, Greensboro, NC
- “From High Risk to Resiliency: Creating a New Future for Mauritania’s Children”, S. State Department, Nouakchott, Mauritania, Africa.
- “Working with the Difficult Adolescent”, Virginia State Conference for Visiting Teachers and School Social Workers, Lynchburg, VA
- “Dual Diagnosis: Developing Treatment Models, Identifying Stakeholders, and Building Grants”, co-presenter, American Counseling Association, New Orleans, LA
- “Clinical Supervision: A New Perspective”, VADAP Summer Training Institute, Williamsburg, VA
- “Administration of Substance Abuse Programs”, VADAP Summer Training Institute, Williamsburg, VA
- “Treating Chemical Dependency: A New Perspective for the 90’s”VADAP Regional Workshop, Roanoke, VA
- “Solution Oriented Therapy for Chemical Dependency: Specific Applications”, Conference on Substance Abuse Treatment in the Virginia Department of Corrections, Richmond, VA
- “A New Approach to Treating Adolescent Substance Abuse,” Virginia Counselor Association
- “Introduction to Brief Solution Oriented Therapy with the Chemically Dependent”, VASAP Training Conference, Roanoke, VA
- “Solution Oriented Group Therapy”, Danville-Pittsylvania CSB, Danville, VA
And here are some of the topics he has presented on:
- “What to Do, When You Don’t Know What to Do.”
- “Creating Trauma Sensitive Schools”
- “Recovery Enhancement and Addiction”
- “Developing Effective Strategies for Therapy: A New Perspective”
- “Therapeutic Interventions with Disruptive Children”
- “Managing Personality Disorders: A Perspective from the Movies”
- “Treating Families of Adolescent Drug Users”
- “Toxic Shame”
- “Stress Management”
- “Relapse Prevention, Part II, High Risk Management”
- “Introduction to Dual Diagnosis”
- “Introduction to Substance Disorders for Mental Health Counselors”
- “Adolescent Drug Use and Assessment”
- “Introduction to Couples Counseling”
- “Treating Cocaine Addiction”
- “Suicide Assessment of Children and Adolescents”
- “Treatment Planning for ODD Children”
- “Developing a Clinical Perspective When Working with Youth”
How do I set up a session?
Call Jon Winder Counseling at 434 239-0003 to set up an appointment.